You Have to Believe in Yourself & Do it for Yourself

As fall came we all need to put more layers on and watch leaves falling off. Fall is the time of seeing how time flows and things are passing. Especially here, in Iceland, everything can change very fast - one day you see leaves turning yellow and three days later they are gone. I guess it's one of the things which makes Icelanders humble in front of Nature and more aware that life goes its own way and we have to take it as it is. Quite beautiful thing I learnt here.

This season and some things happening in my life got me thinking about two actually similar quotes:

"You have to believe in yourself, if you don't no one else will." 

and 

"Remember that only you can solve your problems."

Everyone should realize that there is no one who will solve our problems and sadly, often there is no many people who even care and support you. Sometimes we are surrounded by people but their support is superficial. 

I will be honest, recently I was a bit sad realizing that some people who might seem like supporting me in reality didn't care much. Some even doubted in me. I got to read it between lines and when I finally started to see little successes which made me very happy I heard only "Oh, good for you." You know, there are subtle things, the details which matter and you just feel how much people care... 

Well, but is it something to be mad or sad about? I realized again that it's human nature to focus on their own lives and worries they have. And, how can they be supportive in things they have no clue about? If they didn't go through my way (or something similar) how can they know? 

"Neither happiness nor self-belief should be dependent on others."

We, all humans want and need someone to share joy, happiness, success or struggles. When we achieve something we want our close humans to be happy about it. It's a natural thing for social animals we are. But the key to happiness is that it comes from the inside. It should never be dependent on others. Neither happiness nor self-belief. It is true that no one will care and believe in us more than we do. That's why self-love is so important. You have to believe in your dreams and abilities because most likely YOU will have to convince others about them. So how can you do it if you don't believe yourself?? And it's equally important to do it for own satisfaction, for own vision and because you want to be there regardless of others being happy for you, proud of you or congratulating. You will be happy enough doing it to not pay attention who else is happy for you.

Sure it's normal to have self-doubts especially when things are far from our wishes but you just can't let them into your head. Stay focused on your ultimate goal and prepare for a long run. Enjoy the road and have unshakable trust that you are capable of doing what you dream about and that one day you WILL. Imagine yourself doing it already. And keep exploring different ways until you find the right one 💖

I hope you enjoy this personal post. I decided to say some things because I think that along with all the motivation we get from everywhere it is also important to share our weaknesses, struggles and disappointments. Because this is the reality. This is what we all go through to achieve but no one seems to talk about it. You have to be weak to be strong.

xoxo

Natalia