Tuesday, 14 November 2017

Let's Talk About Makeup

Makeup - very developed art and business of the XXI century which has many advocates, many girls love to play with it but it's also heavily criticized. People go long way making such a sweet thing an evil.

And I wonder WHY?

glitter makeup
What's wrong with putting (or not) makeup on your face? Women always wanted to be beautiful and since ancient times were using tricks to enhance their beauty. Using beetroot to add color to lips or starch to make white, doll-like skin are just basic examples which probably everyone knows. But I'm pretty sure you didn't know that in ancient Greece and Italy women used to put juice of Atropa belladonna berries into their eyes to enlarge pupils. Dilated pupils make an impression of bigger eyes and big eyes have always been associated with young looking face (look at babies, their eyes are huge relatively to face!). But the alkaloids in the berries are strong poison and make a person blurry vision and eyes sensitive to light. These compounds were actually later isolated and used to dilute pupils during the eye check procedure by doctors and have other medical uses but need to be taken under strict doctor supervision!

Well, thanks God, now we have Asian contact lenses to make our eyes bigger.

So what is bad in the fact that girls like to make themselves a bit prettier?

In my opinion, nothing until it's a serious problem of hiding behind makeup and covering insecurities and complexes with it...
What we need to do is, instead of demonising it and putting fault on the whole world for forcing us to look perfect and put makeup (and do all sorts of more or less safe treatments), we should just learn to accept ourselves. I would say that this should be taught at school. Young girls (and what's more horrifying - many older women!) should understand that makeup is just a TOOL and that there is a face without it which is totally OK.
I accept that I have two faces. One with makeup and one without. And I use both of them appropriate to the occasion. I always do makeup when I go to work or go out. But really can't be bothered to do it when I go to do grocery shopping or for a walk. I assume that my face won't scare people out. I would also skip makeup if I meet a friend and we stay home or just stroll to a coffee shop nearby. I have no problem to show my face without makeup to anyone if it comes to staying together in a hotel or beach or... whatever the situation is.

girl with no makeup
My no makeup face :) 

But I usually put makeup if I go to a shopping mall simply because the lighting there is so strong and unnatural that it makes naked skin look way worse than it is! And that's one of the important things to realize - it is not because I'm ugly or have bad skin, in some places it will just look terrible because of light. From the other side when sun is setting down your skin without makeup will look amazing!
I rather advise to take care of skin regularly doing peeling and applying moisturizers, this basic will make your skin look OK (I'm talking about an average person which doesn't have serious skin conditions which require doctor's help). If you don't put effort into maintenance sorry, but it will pay you off!

So what are the reasons I do makeup?

1. I think in this era makeup is part of standard dressing up procedure. It makes me look more professional and put together. If you want to attack me that I'm just following what the world is forcing me to do and all the blah blah I want to ask you why do you wash your hair? Or take shower everyday? People used to do it once a week or a month even. It's not the point to stand against the changing environment but find yourself in it. 

2. I like it. I have always liked since I was a young girl. For me the time I spend putting makeup in the morning is a type of mediation, it relaxes me and I think about many things and get new ideas (the bad side is that it takes me a bit of time tough...)

3. It's fun. Makeup is an art which allows us to play and explore. One day I can look sweet and cute another I put nearly black lipstick and look like a drama queen! I love colors and sparkles! I love seeing how colors blend and make my eyes more blue, gray or greenish... and ohhh how much pretty eyeshadows can iridesce in the sun!

Makeup is made to enhance natural beauty and that's amazing
. We can boost what we have and shine even stronger. Makeup wasn't invented against women but for them! Every single woman feels better and prettier with a bit of makeup and this is why it's worth doing it. Not for the whole world but for own good feeling. Use it, enjoy it but don't let it be your mask!


plamena petrova evening makeup reykjavik
Makeup by Plamena Petrova

lace evening dress dotti
Dress - Dotti

Thursday, 26 October 2017

Back to the Classic - White Shirt & Red Details

You must have already noticed that after a few years of complete craziness fashion trends are simplifying. We are getting back to the classic elegance, styles and cuts are getting simple and we are going to pay for high quality pieces which will create the basis of our waredrobe for longer. 

Personally I fall into it already! For long time I didn't put on my white shirts but now I'm discovering and loving them again. My recent crush is white oversized shirt from Sister Jane. I fell in love with the embroidery details. It's such a masterpiece! And this part is the most exciting to me about the coming fashion era - the quality of clothes and decorations. I really can't stand low quality ornaments or cheap, nearly plastic looking lace. Some things just have to be well made to keep the luxury they carry. 


Wearing a piece which is so rich in texture is actually easier than it might seem. It does most of the outfit so pairing it with basics works wonders. I like to wear blue jeans instead of elegant pants because it brings up this modern look plus timeless classic - red lips. Aall finished with an oversized, checked coat. For me, this is an embodiment of the modern chic.

What do you think?


Details of this outfit:
Shirt - Sister Jane
Coat - Zara
Jeans - Zara
Boots - Badura
Handbag - Michael Kors






Saturday, 14 October 2017

You Have to Believe in Yourself & Do it for Yourself

As fall came we all need to put more layers on and watch leaves falling off. Fall is the time of seeing how time flows and things are passing. Especially here, in Iceland, everything can change very fast - one day you see leaves turning yellow and three days later they are gone. I guess it's one of the things which makes Icelanders humble in front of Nature and more aware that life goes its own way and we have to take it as it is. Quite beautiful thing I learnt here.

This season and some things happening in my life got me thinking about two actually similar quotes:

"You have to believe in yourself, if you don't no one else will." 


"Remember that only you can solve your problems."

Everyone should realize that there is no one who will solve our problems and sadly, often there is no many people who even care and support you. Sometimes we are surrounded by people but their support is superficial. 

I will be honest, recently I was a bit sad realizing that some people who might seem like supporting me in reality didn't care much. Some even doubted in me. I got to read it between lines and when I finally started to see little successes which made me very happy I heard only "Oh, good for you." You know, there are subtle things, the details which matter and you just feel how much people care... 

Well, but is it something to be mad or sad about? I realized again that it's human nature to focus on their own lives and worries they have. And, how can they be supportive in things they have no clue about? If they didn't go through my way (or something similar) how can they know? 

"Neither happiness nor self-belief should be dependent on others."

We, all humans want and need someone to share joy, happiness, success or struggles. When we achieve something we want our close humans to be happy about it. It's a natural thing for social animals we are. But the key to happiness is that it comes from the inside. It should never be dependent on others. Neither happiness nor self-belief. It is true that no one will care and believe in us more than we do. That's why self-love is so important. You have to believe in your dreams and abilities because most likely YOU will have to convince others about them. So how can you do it if you don't believe yourself?? And it's equally important to do it for own satisfaction, for own vision and because you want to be there regardless of others being happy for you, proud of you or congratulating. You will be happy enough doing it to not pay attention who else is happy for you.


Sure it's normal to have self-doubts especially when things are far from our wishes but you just can't let them into your head. Stay focused on your ultimate goal and prepare for a long run. Enjoy the road and have unshakable trust that you are capable of doing what you dream about and that one day you WILL. Imagine yourself doing it already. And keep exploring different ways until you find the right one 💖

I hope you enjoy this personal post. I decided to say some things because I think that along with all the motivation we get from everywhere it is also important to share our weaknesses, struggles and disappointments. Because this is the reality. This is what we all go through to achieve but no one seems to talk about it. You have to be weak to be strong.


Tuesday, 22 August 2017

Summer in Iceland

What is a remark of summer in Iceland? Well, not hot weather like in most places! However the loooong days (meaning literally!) when the sun sets after midnight are a sign of the better part of the year here. But the top pick of the summer is when the purple wave of Lupines covers Reykjavik! They are in full bloom usually from mid June to mid July and shortly after the last Lupine flower is blew by the wind the summer is over too.


How to dress for summer in Reykjavik?

If you open a tourist guide most likely you are gonna read that it's COLD and you need to bring a rain coat and wind proof clothes and well... tons of woolen sweaters won't be too much either! Sounds like dressing up for winter? Yeah, a bit. But the good news is: it is not so bad! This is true that in Iceland the weather can change quickly and can rain a lot but it's not very cold. The temperatures don't get high here but as the climate is different you don't feel freezing cold when it's only 10 Celsius degrees. And as long as there is no wind it can be quite hot with 20 ticks above zero! 
But even with this it's not a tropical country so summer look needs to be adjusted. As I'm a lady (or self nominated princess😅) I couldn't forget about dressing up and wearing some summer pieces. I developed a way to match my light clothes with some warmer pieces to make myself looking stylish but warm and not too odd for the general population here (Ok, sometimes they look but I don't care!).


When I saw this dress in Primark I kind of fell in love. It reminded me countryside style and the stories I have read as a child about village life. But, hmm... now I live in Reykjavik not a Polish village. And as far I remembered, I haven't seen a day for this one this year... With some pieces I would go away and forget but this kept bothering me. So?
Time to get creative!


I decided to wear boots instead of sandals (which to be honest I don't have) to bring this dress heavier, everyday look. I used big baggy-looking handbag to make this looking like a working woman running in the city not a girl walking up a beach promenade.


If it's warm enough I can go like this with naked shoulders but if not I would add a scarf. It will add up stylishness and extravagance. It would be very mine and very XXI century. I think. 

How do you like such modification of a summer dress? 
Oh! And if you live in a warmer country you can use it in the fall or early spring when you just can't wait to jump in a summer dresses! 


Details of this outfit:
Dress - Primark
Boots - Zara
Bag - Benetton
Watch - Michael Kors

Dress - Primark, boots - Zara, bag - Benetton


Saturday, 27 August 2016

Warsaw, Summer Look & Reflections on Friendship

Finally after nearly two years I went to visit my family and friends in Poland :) Life was pretty busy and difficult last couple of years so it's been a very long time since I saw them last time.
However, the most amazing thing is that no matter how long I have been away I still have wonderful friends there waiting to see me! Honestly, I'm grateful everyday for such amazing people I meet in my life! 

If you have good friends always remember this is a blessing 
(even if they can be pretty annoying from time to time ;) )

My best friend since kindergarten lives in Warsaw so I stayed there for a few days enjoying the city and the best company ever! Seriously, I find it as a kind of miracle that we know each other for nearly 25 years, we both went to different universities, work in different fields, meet once in... a year? two?? and still we understand each other like no one else! She is one of the most important people in my life!

Łazienki Park, Warsaw

I moved to Iceland six years ago leaving all my friends and family in Poland. People say that it's hard (even impossible) to make friends after university and even harder on immigration. It's understandable because people with age become more reserved, focused on family, busy with career... simply usually they don't need new people in their life and don't want to invest energy into getting to know another person. 

Maybe we get hurt and disappointed enough so we do not want to trust new people?? 

Taking this into account I think of myself as an extremely lucky person. I still have two very good friends in my home country which ALWAYS make time to see me (even take a day off!) and here in Iceland I met a few new ones. And the group gets bigger :) Of course, there are closer friends and a bit less close. With some I don't meet often but when we do, I just feel like it's another soul mate, the topics for conversation never end and are very diverse. I love people I can have deep conversations, that have opinions, goals, challenge themselves... Such people bring huge amount of positive energy, inspiration and lift me up, often subconsciously. I take this as one of the biggest blessings.

As a very young girl I used to have quite sharp opinions and would rather look for people which share similar views. Luckily, this has changed over the time and now I enjoy discussions with people having different opinions and backgrounds. I learned to value the difference and broaden my horizons by understanding their point. 
Look by Zara, bag Michael Kors, flats & sunnies - no name

This look is also on my You Tube channel :) 

I meet a lot of great people. Not all of them I call a friend but still I'm grateful for having the opportunity to meet and talk to them. I wonder how am I doing this since I'm rather an introvert!
Well, maybe that's the key. I don't meet people during parties, just having fun together. I meet people by working with them or on events where we need to talk and interact each other. When I feel comfortable with someone the conversation just happens (ok, I'm a woman so talking is in my nature too ;) ). This way with random people I end up talking about meaning of life! And I love it! 
Another reason I think, is paradoxically that, I don't expect or look for them! I never craved to find a friend. Not that I thought I don't need friends. I was just used to my own company, grateful for having some good friends even far away and... I guess being kind and polite also matters ;) Even tough I know that people can be mean beasts I never have precautions when I meet someone. I don't feel like I should be careful what I say, if they get my jokes - fine, if not I adjust to them and stay more official. 

Being able to notice the beauty of small things around is called happiness.
Life is just a collection of moments, isn't it? 

The last thing, I learned about having many friends I want to share today is that it's ok if they don't have time to meet me! They probably really don't! I don't feel offended if I don't get fast replies to my messages or our 'let's meet for a cup of coffee' takes a few weeks ;) What I experienced is that the closest friends will find time when I really need them. And I don't expect from less close friends to be a priority. I think that if people enjoy my company sooner or later we will have a nice chat :) 
Everyone is busy nowadays so I guess being relaxed and having less expectations about people will eventually positively surprise you! 

Recently this quote is quite popular:
"You gotta understand the difference between someone who speaks to you on their free time and someone who frees their time to speak to you"

I don't agree. I think that if someone spends time talking to you he or she must enjoy it! Otherwise they would go and check Facebook ;) Time is the biggest value in our era, it's worth to appreciate when someone is giving it to us :)

By writing this post I want to say THANK YOU to my wonderful friends and people I met in my life. It's such an honor to have you all!

Do you have people you are grateful for in your life? Make sure to tell them!


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