As fall came we all need to put more layers on and
watch leaves falling off. Fall is the time of seeing how time flows and things
are passing. Especially here, in Iceland, everything can change very fast - one
day you see leaves turning yellow and three days later they are gone. I guess
it's one of the things which makes Icelanders humble in front of Nature and
more aware that life goes its own way and we have to take it as it is. Quite
beautiful thing I learnt here.
This season and some things happening in my life
got me thinking about two actually similar quotes:
"You have to believe in yourself, if you don't
no one else will."
and
"Remember that only you can solve your
problems."
Everyone should realize that there is no one who
will solve our problems and sadly, often there is no many people who even care
and support you. Sometimes we are surrounded by people but their support is
superficial.
I will be honest, recently I was a bit sad
realizing that some people who might seem like supporting me in reality didn't
care much. Some even doubted in me. I got to read it between lines and when I
finally started to see little successes which made me very happy I heard only
"Oh, good for you." You know, there are subtle things, the details
which matter and you just feel how much people care...
Well, but is it something to be mad or sad about? I
realized again that it's human nature to focus on their own lives and worries
they have. And, how can they be supportive in things they have no clue about? If
they didn't go through my way (or something similar) how can they know?
"Neither
happiness nor self-belief should be dependent on others."
We, all humans want and
need someone to share joy, happiness, success or struggles. When we achieve
something we want our close humans to be happy about it. It's a natural thing
for social animals we are. But the key to happiness is that it comes from the
inside. It should never be dependent on others. Neither happiness nor
self-belief. It is true that no one will care and believe in us more than we
do. That's why self-love is so important. You have to believe in your
dreams and abilities because most likely YOU will have to convince
others about them. So how can you do it if you don't believe yourself?? And
it's equally important to do it for own satisfaction, for own vision and
because you want to be there regardless of others being happy for you, proud of
you or congratulating. You will be happy enough doing it to not pay attention
who else is happy for you.
Sure it's normal to have self-doubts
especially when things are far from our wishes but you just can't let them into
your head. Stay focused on your ultimate goal and prepare for a long run. Enjoy
the road and have unshakable trust that you are capable of doing what you dream
about and that one day you WILL. Imagine yourself doing it already. And keep
exploring different ways until you find the right one 💖
I hope you enjoy this personal post. I decided to say some things because
I think that along with all the motivation we get from everywhere it is also
important to share our weaknesses, struggles and disappointments. Because this
is the reality. This is what we all go through to achieve but no one seems to
talk about it. You have to be weak to be strong.
xoxo
Natalia
